Divorce is usually a difficult process and there are often mixed feelings involved in suddenly "deinvesting" in all the hopes, dreams, and plans you had about your life and future with your partner.Unfortunately, if you have been through a divorce with a narcissist, you may have been through quite a wringer emotionally.As hard as your spouse might have been to deal with in the marriage, going through a divorce often brings out the worst in people and this certainly applies to most narcissists.
If you were expecting any sympathy or empathy, you got none.If you thought he or she would be fair with you, he or she probably wasn't.Perhaps you got bled dry financially through the process of a high conflict divorce, your partner unwilling to admit you deserved anything.Maybe now that you are starting over on your own, you are scared and second guess whether you "could" have made it work with enough professional intervention.If you made it free of a narcissist, you are truly courageous.Here are 3 steps for picking up those pieces and moving on:
1. Make it your mission to take good care of yourself.Eat right, exercise regularly, and take vitamins and supplements if needed.See a counselor if you are really struggling emotionally, or a coach if you are basically okay but would like to have a guide and accountability partner moving forward.Make a decision you are going to honor your needs and wants now that you have some freedom to do so!
2. Surround yourself with the people you love and trust, who have supported you and you feel good around.The more you can reprogram yourself with messages of love and affirmation, the easier it will be to jettison the negative and convincing yet wrong messages your narcissist ex spouse constantly sent you.
3. Take some time to be and discover yourself.If you do not take some time to assess your part in the relationship and figure out what attracted you into it in the first place, you run the risk of picking another person who may have similar issues.See a counselor if you feel unclear about yourself or your boundaries in this area.It's okay to take some time before jumping into dating again.
Are you interested in addressing the challenge of divorce from a holistic standpoint, assessing the physical, emotional, practical, and relationship components?
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Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and holistic personal growth, including physical, emotional and relationship health.
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